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Resilience Toolkit

8/24/2020

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A friend of mine recently sent me an article from the New York Times entitled, Is Resilience Overrated?  As I read the article, I reflected on the many ways that people define resilience.  I looked up the word resilience and found this definition: “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.” 

Yes, I thought, if that is how one defines resilience, I can see where a person might think that resiliency is overrated.
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I agree that the ability to bounce back from adversity is a hallmark of resilience, but the strategies that one uses to bounce back can make the difference between resilience feeling fatiguing and resilience being uplifting.  I consider myself to be a very resilient person, but the word “toughness” is not part of my working definition of the word.

Long-term resilience involves being able to integrate difficult experiences and then respond skillfully.  But just how, you might ask, does one do that?

To begin, I would like to talk about what resilience is not.  Truthfully, when adversity hits, I oftentimes try my “not resilient” strategies first. Here is what “not resilience” looks like for me: Telling myself there is no problem.  Compulsively doing things that distract me from the problem.  Trying to look on the bright side of things to avoid feeling difficult feelings.  Repeat.  When I experience something challenging in my life, I oftentimes practice “not resilience” until I become too anxious or too tired to continue.  Then, I surrender to reality and turn toward my resiliency toolkit. 

My resilience toolkit includes the following:
  1. Talking with friends
  2. Journaling
  3. Getting angry and sad and scared and messy
  4. Cloaking myself with kindness and compassion
  5. Practicing yoga or exercising to get into my body and out of my head
  6. Spending time in nature
  7. Gathering resources
  8. Continuing to take steps forward, often with the support of friends
  9. Beginning to hope, take in the good, and see silver linings
  10. Experiencing another setback
  11. Repeat
This resilience toolkit creates resilience that is both sustainable and uplifting.  It is something that I can go back to again and again when life gets messy and hard.  Setbacks in life are inevitable, and a supportive resilience toolkit cannot be overrated.
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    Jamie Lynn Tatera is a mindfulness and self-compassion teacher who shares her experience, strength and hope in integrating mindfulness and self-compassion in her everyday life.

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